By Margaret Kamba 

Many times, we have questioned the morality of people whose escapades we have heard about or seen without trying to uncover what it is behind their lifestyle.

I am no Saint in this matter as I have also countless times rushed to conclude that they are perhaps bewitched and posses a sexual demon which lives and thrives on this to become rich or other.

I have never taken time to think deeply about what it is that makes these people seem so addicted to this act. What has made it worse is that some of these people seem to brag about their escapades.

I was recently made aware of one account, which made me totally understand how some childhood traumatic experiences turn people into such.

In my conversation with this person, Gary Moyo, I got to understand and feel sorry for this man who was abused at the tender age of six by a close relative.

The trust by the parents to allow the abuser into the home exposed this little boy to a journey that has seen him sleeping with over 1000 women.

"We would sleep in one room on the floor because my parents accepted many of our relatives coming home. I was young. At first, I couldn't understand what was going on until later when I began doing these things. When I later went to boarding school, the girls at school would label me as a naughty boy because of this experience I had gained," he said.

"I have slept with a lot of women and in a day can sleep with six of them. At some point, I broke a record of sleeping with 11 in one day. I sometimes ask myself if this is normal, and when I think about what happened to me as a child, it affects me."

When you hear such horrific accounts, you wonder how safe your own child is. Our children are exposed to a lot of abuse and violation from the people we call our relatives who break the trust that we have. This circle extends to friends, and our house helps. This is exactly by the fact that they are exposed to cartoons, which show them small habits like kissing and having a boyfriend. The rating on films is no longer of importance, and they watch and even tell you what happens.

We do not take time to restrict access to such, let alone explain things. They are then thrown in a deep end that they are not able to take themselves out of. This is the reason why they think drugs and substance abuse are the way to go, and yet it is not.

How do we ensure that our children are safe from all this pain and misery? How do we rebuild their lives? How do we safeguard them such negative vices? Do they have any hope? 

These are questions that boggle the mind. 

What shall we do?